It’s time for a very important post-Christmas question. Just where does your family stand on thank you letters?
I’ll tell you now, this family is pro thank you letter. Whatever present the children receive, they send a thank you letter.
In Izzy’s case, as she’s only four, the letters are often written by me but she has now learned to write her nickname so she will willingly sign each and every one.
At this age it’s still a novelty. I suspect next year when Izzy’s at school the fun element of writing her own name will have worn off and it won’t be quite so easy.
As with pretty much everything this family does, however, we aren’t perfect. It is often a month after the event before the letters are posted, but written and posted they are.
Well, the kids write their letters within a month. Us adults can take a bit longer. As I say, nobody’s perfect, right?
There are a couple of exceptions with particularly close relatives who are happy with a phone call. I stress, ‘though, that they are the exception and not the rule.
There’s also the one cheeky relative, one of my brothers. After a recent birthday celebration, I couldn’t remember if Helen had sent him a thank you letter.
“Yes she did,” he said.
“And even if she hadn’t, I’d still say she had because I remember how boring it was when mum made us sit down and write them,” he added.
Maybe I’m just a bit old fashioned, but to me a thank you letter should be written. It shouldn’t be an email or a phone call.
It needn’t be very long, a couple of sentences is all it takes. It’s just one of those occasions when only the written word will suffice.
I know as a kid I used to dislike writing thank you letters. I clearly recall my mother sitting next to me, dictating letter after letter, the exasperation in her voice as she read out the same sentence about the weather, the aim clearly being to fill space on the page.
To be honest, I think the younger generation get the concept of thank you letters. It’s the adults that surprise me with their lack of etiquette.
A couple of times over the past few years we’ve received text messages of thanks from people for wedding presents. Since when did that become the done thing?
In this post-Christmas phase, I wish you luck writing your own thank you letters. For those of you that insist your kids write thank you letters….best of luck making it happen!