Concentrate on what your child is doing, not your phone.

Like most parents, I have a sizable archive of family photos and videos. The majority are stored digitally, and they chart most significant moments from Helen’s birth onwards.

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Concentrate on the event, not your phone. Just because smart phones allow us to document every moment of our kids’ lives, doesn’t mean we should.

With the arrival of smart phones, it’s never been easier to plot every moment of your children’s life. I, for one, remain to be convinced this is a good thing.

That may sound like an odd thing for a blogger to say, especially a daddy blogger, but more than ever I see parents living their child’s life via the screens of their smart phone. It’s a slightly detached way of doing things. If you’re filming what your child is doing, you’re concentrating on what you’re recording, not the event itself.

I saw a classic example of this at sports day recently.  I noticed that each time one particular child participated in an event, his dad went right to the front and recorded every single moment of his kids’ races.

I simply couldn’t figure out why he’d want to do that. Oh and there’s the small matter of this guy getting in the way of everyone else’s way.

Sure, a couple of snaps or 30 seconds of video footage is one thing. I think we could all be forgiven that, but for the entire event this kid will have seen his dad staring at his phone instead of watching the races.

It is, of course, unfair to single out one person. There were plenty of other people recording what was going on, even though they weren’t really supposed to be. It’s also something I see at gymnastics competitions, school plays at the park and so on.

Getting back to the matter in hand, my mind boggles at the amount of data it must use up when mums and dads record so much of their kids’ lives. Imagine recording every family gathering, school event and family day out. Anyone who does that must have weeks and weeks worth of video footage and I’d bet much of it is very dull.

I recall, many, many years ago, we went on a family holiday to Spain. My stepdad borrowed a friend’s video camera as he was considering buying one.

I was rather excited at this prospect but when we returned, I overheard him telling someone it hadn’t been worth it. I’ll paraphrase, but he said most of the footage had been incredibly boring and my hopes that we’d soon own a family video camera were dashed.

Do I record what my kids get up and take pictures of them? Of course I do, but I do it sparingly.

Just because technology enables you to record every single moment, doesn’t mean you should. In most instances, less is definitely more.

Where do you stand on this issue? Do you feel sad when you see mums and dads documenting every moment of their kids’ lives instead of living the experience? Maybe you think I’m wrong. Whatever your thoughts, feel free to comment below.

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8 Comments

  1. June 29, 2018 / 6:21 am

    Hi, great points technology is great to capture lots of happy memories but not constantly. Especially if you get in the way of others enjoying the day as well #thatfridaylinky

    • John Adams
      Author
      June 29, 2018 / 6:38 am

      Yes, when your obsession has an impact on others in addition to your kid…..you’re getting something wrong. We all want to savour those special moments, but filming every moment is just too much.

  2. June 29, 2018 / 6:39 am

    I’m with you. Record the memories with your mind, it’s so more real.
    I take snaps and record small clips but like to view first hand as much as possible.
    It also baffles me when people do the same at concerts, Disney parades etc.
    The best camera is your own eyes and brain!

  3. June 29, 2018 / 8:30 am

    Great post. im always taking lots of random photos of my boys with my phone. I love being having a device thats a camera too #ThatFridayLinky

  4. June 29, 2018 / 10:03 am

    I’ve pretty well dropped video for this reason, though I still take way too many photos. Once in a while I’ll sit at a screen full of thumbnails, pick a few goos ones for a future printed album and mass delete the rest.

    • John Adams
      Author
      July 1, 2018 / 6:04 am

      Yes, the occasional mass delete is needed. i think we are all guilty of bunging up the cloud with too many pics! Interesting to hear you’ve given up on video though. I’ll shoot a little, but only a tiny bit and never at school events.

  5. July 1, 2018 / 6:30 am

    I agree less sometimes is more sadly we live a world of oversharing I try to pick carefully what I share and not too often Thank you for linking to #Thatfridaylinky please come back next week

  6. July 2, 2018 / 8:38 pm

    I admit I have been THAT parent that felt the need to constantly snap and film my oldest. I needed to capture as much as I could on photo or film to show everyone exactly what he was doing. I very quickly realised that I was so busy taking the photo I missing the experience and now I take a lot less photos and films. I will grab a quick photo and then join back in. Kids need memories of you doing things with them not 1000 photos of them at the zoo or whatever. #ThatFridayLinky