Five things that have changed now both kids have started school

Izzy, our youngest daughter, has been at school for almost a month now. Her transition from pre-schooler to schoolgirl is complete.

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With both children at school, housework has become a bigger part of my life. it;s a bit annoying, truth be told. Pic credit: Kipras Štreimikis on Unsplash.

Likewise, I have more time during the day to concentrate on domestic duties and earning money. Predictions that I would don activewear and “do lunch with the girls” have not come to pass, although I’ve noticed some concrete changes to the way we operate as a family. Some have been a total surprise, others were expected.

I’ve picked out a few examples and highlighted them below. I’d be curious to know if you can relate to any of these.

Housework

I said at the beginning of the school summer holidays that mums and dads shouldn’t do too much housework during that long, long six-week break. I can assure you I practiced what I preached.

As Izzy was starting in reception class, it was, in fact, a seven-week holiday for this household so there was an extra week of dust and filth build-up. Wow, did it build up.

I simply can’t go into detail about how appalling the state of the house was. It would be too mortifying. Suffice it to say the stairs were grey by the end of the holidays because of the dust. Having been vacuumed several times since, they are once again mushroom brown.

With Izzy at school, I am finding it easier to do housework each day. I won’t deny it though, I intensely dislike the fact I’m doing more housework. There are so many other things I’d rather concentrate on.

Izzy is incredibly tired

I remember when Helen started school, she practically fell out of the classroom each day she was so tired. I thought it might be tougher on Izzy as, unlike her sister, she was still wanting the occasional afternoon nap.

My prediction has turned into reality. Izzy is far more tired than her sister ever was and she can get very grumpy in the evenings. Several times she has fallen asleep long before bed time.

I know as she settles in to school life it won’t be so tiring for her. I think we have a few bumpy months ahead, but probably bumpier than when her Helen started school.

Homework diaries

Oh my word, the amount of time I have to spend filling in homework diaries has increased massively. It’s not enough simply to keep a record of what both kids have read, but whether Izzy has done handwriting practice.

I also have to note whether Helen has done literacy, mathematics, spent time using Mathletics and so on. Add in Helen’s piano practice book and I find myself doing a fair bit of admin each evening.

Celebrating achievement: Helen has a rival

This is a trickier issue to handle. We’ve always celebrated both kids’ successes. Until now, however, only Helen has returned from school with team points and headteacher’s certificates etc.

Helen isn’t always very comfortable when Izzy achieves something at school that she hasn’t. I wouldn’t want to overplay the issue, but it’s obvious Helen is going through a period of readjustment now she’s sharing the limelight. That, I guess, is just a part of growing up.

The kids have more in common

When I pick the kids up in the afternoon, I love listening to their conversation. After years of the two of them existing in different worlds, they now have so much in common.

They’ll discuss what they had for school dinner. Big sister will offer advice to little sister about how to handle reception class, the girls will talk about when they’ve seen each other during the school day. It’s a real joy to listen to and great that they can share these experiences.

It’s not an empty nest

Although the children are out of the house for several hours each day, it is far from an empty nest. Mornings, evenings and weekends are as busy as ever.

I am having not trouble whatsoever filling in the extra hours. If I’m not concentrating on domestic issues I am working and earning money and I do have more time for that now.

How have you found things? Have you recently waved your kids off to school this September? If so, are you lounging around in your activewear watching daytime TV or are you filling the time productively?

If you are lounging around, I don’t suppose I could persuade you to fill in my kids’ homework diaries and do a little housework for me? Please? Pretty please?

 

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8 Comments

  1. October 10, 2017 / 5:23 am

    I agree that I do seem to be doing a lot of house work, sorting out cupboards and chucking a lot of things out or selling outgrown stuff on Facebook. I’ve even started decorating over all the pen scrawled over the walls. Come the weekend it all deteriorates again and it’s a never ending cycle, sometimes I long for a break from it and a chance to put on something other then comfy leggings.
    I’d love to work and earn some cash but it’s so hard to find something that fits in with school hours, that’s why I’ve started my blog in the hope that some day I can earn some cash from it, Do you earn money from your blog or do you have a job outside the home? I’m always looking for inspiration! Thanks

    • John Adams
      Author
      October 12, 2017 / 8:57 am

      Well Juliet, seems like we inhabit similar worlds. Yes, my blog was a sideline for some time but now my daughters are at school I am dedicating more time to it as a source of income and fitting it around the family.

  2. October 10, 2017 / 10:23 pm

    I have just one question, how do you reach the top cupboards? I’m on tippy toes with t-squares and large tongs as it is. And what do you keep in there?

    • John Adams
      Author
      October 12, 2017 / 8:49 am

      Ah, well, it the top cupboards is where sweets generally get put. A bit pointless to be honest as the kids have worked out how to get things out of there.

  3. October 11, 2017 / 9:17 am

    I am sorry you aren’t getting the chance to lunch with the ladies as yet… unfortunately that is just a myth! 😉 You totally did the right thing by spending time as a family during the summer holidays as opposed to doing housework – housework is always there, those precious moments aren’t… hope you are cracking on today though! 😉 It’s lovely to read that they have much more in common now they are both at school together – it’s an incredible bond – the tiredness will fade over time, so be prepared for them both being full of beans by summer time next year! 😉 Sim x #ThatFridayLinky

    • John Adams
      Author
      October 12, 2017 / 8:48 am

      Yes, I must say I am not seeing or hearing of many ladies going out to lunch together so maybe it is a myth. As for the housework, I should be doing some now, truth be told!

  4. November 29, 2017 / 11:07 am

    Housework, meh. I work 4 days a week so I hired a cleaner 😀 On my one day off from work, I walk the boys to school, go for a long run, waste a few hours online, do some cooking and then it’s time to pick them up again.

    • John Adams
      Author
      December 5, 2017 / 9:57 pm

      I like your approach. In fact Mrs Adams is trying to persuade me to hire a cleaner. Maybe we should.