Hugging; #Neverstophugging your children

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A father hugs his newborn, but many fathers cease such interaction will end by the age of 10. Pic credit below (Pic 1)

Who doesn’t like to be hugged? Whether young or old, a hug can convey very strong emotions. Even so, a new survey suggests many dads struggle with it once their kids reach a certain age.

The survey of 2,000 dads based in the UK was commissioned by Fairy Non Bio. Its findings revealed that dads like to show their affection by hugging, but that one in five stop doing so once their children reached the age of 10.

Other findings from the survey include;

  • two thirds of dads claiming they hug their kids more than their own father hugged them
  • when children become teenagers (ages 14-18), dads frequently move away from primarily showing affection by hugging, and instead demonstrate it verbally or by giving them advice and guidance
  • older dads are also far less likely to hug their children, with only 35% of dads aged 55 and over hugging their children, compared to 54% of dads aged 18-34.

Fairy Non Bio has launched the #Neverstophugging campaign to encourage dads to appreciate the importance of hugging their offspring. The campaign has been backed by psychologist and neuroscientist Dr Simon Thompson. Dr Thompson said;

“Hugs impact on us in a variety of ways. At the physical level, they provide us with tactile comfort, softness, and closeness. At the hormonal level, the body’s natural chemicals are released for our emotional well-being and to protect us from harm; and the hug has become part of that in ensuring the necessary chemicals are released and regulated.”

A video has also been produced as part of the campaign. Called Learning to Hug, it shows the story of a father and son and how they expressed affection towards each other differently as they both grew older. The video is embedded below so have a look and see what you think.

In a further thread to the campaign, I was given the opportunity to ask Dr Thompson my own questions about hugging. I was very keen to find out if it was a positive experience for children to see their parents hugging and also what advice he may have for dads who may have irregular access to their kids.

Here is what I asked and Dr Thompson’s responses

  • Is it positive for a child to see their parents hugging?

“I believe that it is a positive experience for a child seeing a parent who they trust and love show affection towards another (their spouse or sibling) in the way of a hug. It is similar to seeing another person smile when the situation is happy. It makes you want to smile and be a part of the experience.

“See hugging and want to be hugged!”

  • Any special advice for divorced / separated dads who may not have constant access to their kids?

“Try and meet up regularly with your son or talk regularly on the telephone – don’t just email or text but keep up the voice contact too. There is no replacement for a hug so try and meet up as often as you can.

“Be interested in what your son is doing in his life and ask questions when you meet up or talk together.

“Test out with a handshake whether or not your son is happy for contact from you. The more often you meet, the greater the opportunity for a hug. Remember to respect your son and if he is not willing to have the contact of a hug then you should respect this.”

  • What about military (or similar) personnel who may spend long periods of time apart from their family? How should they re-introduce themselves to their kids after a long spell away? Is hugging the way to go?

“Hugging can often break down the boundaries of perceived loss and re-establishes the previous strong connection between parents and children. But sometimes it takes time and trust from the child, and it may take a few encounters before the child wishes to be hugged again by the parent.

“Hugging should never be forced upon a child; some children may have reasons for not wishing to be hugged and it is about respect and trust as well as reassurance that makes the hug happen and be successful in its goal.”

What do you think about this research? Does it tell the story of your family? Do you hug your kids more than your father hugged you? Just as importantly, do you like to hug and be hugged?

A father and daughter enjoy a hug. Pic credit below (pic 2)

Pic credits: Pic 1: Pezibear. Pic 2: PublicDomainPictures. Both images sourced from Pixabay.com and reproduced under Creative Commons agreement.


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12 thoughts on “Hugging; #Neverstophugging your children”

  1. Haidee@Maybe Baby Brothers

    Great post! My husband is very affectionate towards our boys and they are smothered in hugs. It’s very interesting that many dads stop hugging around age 10, I’ll keep that stat in mind. His dad was equally affectionate when he was a child. #brilliantblogposts

    1. Glad to hear you’ll keep that age in mind. Also glad to hear your husband had an affectionate father. I don’t think it was so common in that age group.

  2. This is a really lovely post. We love hugs in our family and both hubby and I hug our boys numerous amounts of times in the day! The research about hugs stopping from around 10 years of age is very interesting though and one I will bear in mind. #brilliantblogposts

  3. Oh that’s so sad that Dad’s are stopping hugging at 10. I fear my ex husband may give up before then as he has never accepted the importance of it. I try to make up – probably too much! #brilliantblogposts

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