It was a rather strange moment. I was sat at my computer, half distracted and I turned round to my wife and said: “And what does mummy think?”
At that very moment I realsied how often Mrs Adams and I refer to each other as “mummy” and “daddy.” It’s just second nature in front of the kids.
To them we are simply mummy and daddy. Whether they want food, drink or have come into the bedroom at 3am after a bad dream, we answer to those names.
Yes, I will admit it, I like being daddy. The day I become “dad” will be a sad one, although I know it will happen one day and probably sooner than I imagine.
Even so, there should be limits to when a husband and wife or partners call themselves by these titles. I propose the following guidelines:
- The titles mummy and daddy should be used sparingly in public and never if your children are not present
- The titles mummy and daddy should never be used when the only two people present are mummy and daddy (especially when mummy and daddy are playing mummies and daddies)
- Extreme caution should be followed when using the phrases mummy and daddy when granny and granddad are present, just in case granny gets called “mummy” by accident (this, I confess, being a specialty of mine) or granddad gets called “daddy” (never happened, thankfully).
- Before referring to yourself in the third person as mummy or daddy, stop and think: can I rephrase this somehow?
- Do you have a nickname such as Daddy Bear or Mummy Bear? If yes, ask yourself whether this is necessary.
Most of all, enjoy being mummy and daddy for as long as it lasts because your offspring won’t deem in acceptable forever. Earlier this week Helen came out of class, looked up at her teacher and said “there’s my dad” so who knows, in her case my days as daddy might already be numbered.
Hopefully you have found those guidelines useful. Maybe you have some thoughts on when it is acceptable to use the phrases mummy and daddy? Maybe you can think of some guidelines of your own? If so, please leave a comment below, I’d love to read them.