Helping children navigate the online world is a massive part of 21st Century parenting. One particular issue is helping youngsters recognise and challenge gender stereotypes.
Below is an article written by renowned psychologist Dr Linda Papadopoulos. In the article, Dr Papadopolous outlines the content children are exposed to online, the stereotypes they have to deal with and what us parents can do to help our children challenge them. There are also links to where you can get further help from Internet Matters, the online safety not-for-profit.
Children are exposed to a wealth of content and interactions online which can impact their views on certain groups of people, and ultimately the way they treat others. Knowing how to speak to children about these experiences is crucial to help them be empathetic and kind online, as well as support them to feel confident questioning stereotypes in relation to others and themselves.
I’ve been working with Internet Matters and Samsung Electronics UK on The Online Together Project – a new interactive tool to help children and young people develop their critical thinking skills in order to foster a positive and inclusive digital experience for all. The first phase of the project focuses on helping children and young people challenge gender stereotypes they come across online.
Recent figures in the Cybersurvey from Youthworks in partnership with Internet Matters* show that over one in 10 children aged 11+ have received sexist comments online, increasing to one in five for those children who prefer not to state their gender. With an increase in gender-related harmful content and online abuse, it can be challenging for children and young people to establish autonomous, unbiased opinions and attitudes about genders, differences, and equality.
From online gaming to social media, children and young people encounter gender stereotypes in various ways. One of the problems in recent years has been the way that young girls are objectified online. Boys on the other hand, tend to be hyper-masculinised. These preconceptions of gender can impact the way young people interact with others.
Children can be easily pressured to interact with others in pre-conceived ways, based on the norms bred by internet culture. Young people seek out what it means to be: Good or bad, beautiful or not beautiful, smart or stupid. Children are likely to feel they either need to adhere to these stereotypes, or question those that don’t.
The fact that so much of what they are exposed to online is visual means that many of these complex ideas around how people behave or express themselves online are distilled down to basic and often unhelpful concepts. Children and young people of different sexes might be feeling like they need to conform and in effect become caricatures of what it means to be male or female in order to belong regardless of how comfortable this feels. Ultimately this means that the nuance around critical discussions that help a child construct their identity is lost and instead replaced by simplistic and often restrictive indicators of femininity and masculinity.
If children and young people feel they need to confine themselves to a particular stereotype they see online based on very narrow ideals, this is going to affect not only their body image but their confidence and overall self-esteem. The more critically children are able to assess, accept and value the images they are presented with the less likely they will be to feel pressure to adhere to them and the more accepting and kinder they will be to others.
Speaking to young people about the importance of listening to others without bias, being welcoming to fresh ideas, and open to what they stumble across online is key to helping them be tolerant to new views and ideas.
To help children and young people understand the way they think about gender stereotypes, discrimination and sexual and /or violent content, here are five tips to support them.
5 Top Tips to support children and young people
- Be open and transparent in your conversations about the issue
Online platforms can present unattainable standards where children and young people believe that they must conform to a certain behaviour or look a certain way online in order to be accepted. Children and young people need to be able to speak openly about what they experience online so that they can understand gender stereotypes and how to identify them in online spaces. If you are unsure or uncomfortable with the topic, do your own research so that you can best support a child in an open and transparent conversation.
- Discuss the impact of gender stereotypes online
Gender stereotypes can promote unhealthy and old-fashioned attitudes that do not allow for different expressions of self. Children and young people may believe that they have to be a certain way to fit the ‘girl’ or ‘boy’ box and these gender stereotypes may further pressure them to act in harmful ways to themselves and towards others. Some gender stereotypes may lead children and young people to have negative body images or even engage in self-harm. Open and transparent discussion to counter these stereotypes and promote positive body image is crucial.
- Explain how to be an upstander and when it is safe to do so
Children and young people can help stop harmful behaviour like bullying or harassment when it is safe to do so by calling out the person on their harmful actions and blocking them, supporting the victim, leaving the online situation or asking for help from a trusted adult or mentor.
- Encourage them to respect differences and celebrate uniqueness online
As soon as children are old enough to engage online, they should be encouraged to know that they have a right to feel safe and respected online, as well as a responsibility to respect others. You can teach digital resilience and provide strategies for showing respect online to everyone including others who are different or unique.
- Continue the conversation and your support
Once you have begun to have conversations with children and young people, do your best to keep these going and provide opportunities for them to discuss any questions or concerns that they have. The best approach is to start early and have regular conversations while using age-appropriate language for the situation.
Here are some examples of sample conversation starters. Feel free to adapt to a child’s age and level of maturity. After each statement, have an open and transparent conversation with them about respecting differences and accepting people as they are.
“Is that a boy or a girl?”
“Girls are ballerinas and boys are soldiers.”
“Boys are smarter than any other gender”
“Boys are not as nice as girls.”
Having open conversations with children and young people and modelling empathy and understanding is crucial to help them respect themselves and others as well as identify gender inequality in online spaces. With your support, the children and young people in your life can learn to respect differences and uniqueness online.
Encourage your kids to try out the tool to learn more about gender stereotypes. You can visit the tool here.
For more information on how to keep your child safe online visit Internetmatters.org
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